Search This Blog

Sunday, June 17, 2012

Birthday Post: Don't Leave Your Space.

As I write this, I think of aging and I wonder on the experiences that come with it. Today, I am a year older. My beards have grown; stronger and more stubborn for incessant shaving. There are so many things to talk about from the 365 days gone by, but I will not blabber about all. I am not even sure of how their details were. Times have passed and confusions have matured into what little understanding I now daily survive on. In honesty, I hate this maturity, it is a challenging one for me, one that winds on, giving only drops of fulfillments. Though, there have been many joyful seasons and my adulthood may have been sharpened by them. On those, I will begin this note. And on other jarring unfulfilled memories, I would shelf. Today, I am to reflect to advance and not bathe in the puddle of unaccomplished dreams. In this view, I would share some thoughts.

I am becoming old and more responsibilities are calling. How I desired to be ten again. Then, I had cakes, birthday pictures and naivety to go with.

Leaving the Comfort Zone – my space

Whoever said staying in a comfort zone inhibits anything worthwhile obviously needs a rethink. As applicable to my present situation, I wouldn’t take a comfort zone as that pleasurable space that encourages lassitude. Before now, I may have been subscribing to the dogma that necessarily believes a comfort zone to be a danger-zone for development. Such belief only shows a lack in the many conclusions many arrive at in finding explanations to unknown things. I do not hold self-flagellation burnishes success for anyone. A comfort zone is a personal space that allows free assemblage and recodifications of effective ideas. Leaving one’s comfort zone is a disastrous attempt that may never be recovered from. That few happen upon success only after they do away with it, is just a probability that some discomfort may stir unlikely creative performance. For me, I do not share such philosophy. I would take a thin slice from my present condition to back my claim. I just started a degree programme in some course, which noticeably, has temporarily scattered my mode of living. Now, I have to bear sharing a cramped space with others as accommodation facility on the school’s campus. You must have noticed, before now, that this blog went on forced break for months. That, only, speaks loud of the peril in forfeiting one’s comfort zone. Until holiday comes, my writing activities will have to be done in fragments. Does the end then balance the means? I should hope so just to be consoled.

Making Wishes
If I must make wishes, even when there are no cakes and candles, I would wish time and space fall into favourable places for me as I look forward to this new journey with hopeful eyes. It is my birthday and I am happy it is. Happy birthday, Joseph Omotayo.


I am collecting some contemporary African literatures for review purpose next month, and I would need some suggestions. Drop some in the comment box.


  1. Hey! Happy Birthday to you.. Welcome back.
    I so wish I was still very young myself. As one grows older the pressures and responsibilities increase.

    Staying in your comfort zone is not a bad thing at all. Much of our time should be spent there (as author Sean Covey put it), but I think it is also important to take little baby steps out of our comfort zone once in a while when needed. If for example staying in one's comfort zone includes being shy to speak in public and dreading it at all cost, I think one should make an effort to step out just a little bit out of their comfort zone, in that aspect and improve their public speaking skills, because one day they might need to speak in public and their inability to might hinder a part of their progress in life, career etc. Just saying.

    I'll suggest The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's wives by Lola Shoneyin

  2. Thank you so much, Ay! Yeah, now I am back.

    I do not also support hiding in one's comfort zone as an escape from responsibilities and the bold steps one must take as a person. What I believe is that, a creative mind is better maximised well in the zone.

    I have read the Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives. I have it on my bookshelf. In fact, I asked a friend to do a review on it and he did it on this space:

    Also, another friend did a comparison of the book with another book here:

    Both reviews were requested.

  3. Welcome back Joe. Have you read the two new Paressia books?

  4. Happy Birthday
    I believe leaving one's comfort zone is neccesary for self-development
    However, success can only be achieved if the person still retains some creature comforts

  5. @Myne. Thanks for welcoming me back. It is really great to be back here. I only know of Richard Ali's City of Memories. What is the title of the second one?

    @N.I.L Thanks ma'am. I can recollect you commented on my last year's birthday post when it was published. Oh! Time really does fly. Thank you. Thank you. I would agree with you in as much as the new space allows one to "retain some creature comforts".


  6. I Can't Be More Than Happy on the way Dr. klin helped me to get back my girlfriend My name is sami jhon Dr. klin cast a spell on her, I felt like ending it all, i almost committed suicide because she left me with nothing, i was emotionally down. But all thanks goes to Dr. klin who i met online on one faithful day, as I was searching for tips to get my girl back to me, I came across several testimonies about this particular man. Some people testified that he brought their lover back, some testified that he prayed to stop divorce and get a good paying job and so on. He is amazing, i also come across one particular testimony, it was about a woman called Stella Kyes, she testified about how he brought back his lover in less than 3 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped his email After reading all these testimonies, I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email ( ) and explained my problem to him. In just 7 days, my girlfriend came back to me. We resolved our issues, and we are even happier than ever. Dr. klin you are a gifted man and thank you for everything you had done in my life. If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster, Try him anytime, he is the answer to your problems. you can contact him on email: and he will help you solve your problems. you can also whatsapp him on his Mobile:+2347059014517 he is the answer to your problems.

    1 HIV /aids cure
    2 herpes cure
    3 stroke
    4 disable
    5 cancer
    7 als
    8 dick enlargement
    9 hepatitis B
    15 ASTHMA
    Best Regards


  7. My name is Monica Brown, and I base in USA...My life is back!!! After 1 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids . I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr. klin which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet,I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Sonia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr. klin e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before Dr. klin is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man... If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. Try High anytime, he might be the answer to your problems. Here's his contact: or call him +2347059014517


< >